random thoughts

random thoughts

It’s weird to me that I was 28 before I learned about boundaries in relationships. Weirder it took me to have kids to understand what it means to actually have them. Nap time is a struggle sometimes. Jorge has that toddler energy and it’s super human when he’s tired. We don’t push it but on days I need rest and he’s pushing back we are setting boundaries. “Jorgio, i know you want to play still but I get rest time too. I’m giving myself time to be quiet and clear my mind, I’ll set a timer for 10 minutes and when it rings we can get up.” And he’s sleeping in 5 min maximum. honestly, it’s so much easier than demanding sleep. His language is developing and he communicates very well- he understands EVERYTHING- words and tone, volume and body language. Quiet time is time I never had to set aside before I had kids because I naturally just got it when I was cleaning or driving or reading, or just about anything, but damn kids are loud! when kids are yelling, instinct is to yell so you can establish control of the situation, but have you ever tried whispering? when you whisper oh that really throws them off! And they quiet to hear what you have to say. And usually when you whisper you have to bend over or squat down so they can hear you and then you’re eye level and eye contact is so important in communicating. And oh look, you just connected with them and now they’re listening. plus, whispering is so much better on your ears. Do you whisper with your kids? Do you think it helps w cooperation? unfortunately does not have the same effect on your partner…well not mine at least 😂